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We've been getting quite a few emails about having sex for the first time. We didn't quite realize how many young people were watching our shows. But we've heard you and this episode is going to be all about what to do if you're still holding on to that 'V' card. I think the best way to go about this is to go through and answer a few of the most common questions we've been getting, now lets get started. First off, what is "Virginity?" - Typically a 'virgin' is someone who has never had sexual intercourse before. However, most of the time people have completely different ideas of what 'losing your virginity' means. Some think of it as having heterosexual intercourse for the first time. Other include almost any sort of sex, including both gay or lesbian sex, oral sex or even anal sex as their "first" time. Next question - Does having oral sex, getting fingered, doing anal, giving a hand job, etc., etc. count as losing your virginity? This isn't really an easy question, and once again, everyone seems to have their own opinion. Even if you don't personally "count" any of these things, they can all transmit STDs. And no matter what you consider as still 'being a virgin', the most important thing is making sure you're ready before you do anything sexual. There's nothing wrong with being a virgin, and you shouldn't feel like you have to rush into losing your virginity. Question number three - My boyfriend or girlfriend is not a virgin but I am, what do I do? - Don't let this one get to you - being a good lover is about sensitivity, not experience. You do have the advantage of not having the pressure of being their first. They are more experienced, this is a good thing, because your partner will know what to expect. Question four - I'm worried that I'll look inexperienced if I admit I'm a virgin, so you I just keep it to myself?. - No - you HAVE to be honest with your partner. Let them know you haven't been with anyone else. There's nothing embarrassing about saying "I'm a virgin!". If you're close enough to someone to be thinking about having sex, you should be close enough to be able to talk honestly to them. If they know it's your first time, your partner will know to go easy on you. Question five - Am I Ready? - If you're asking this question, then you're probably not. DO NOT let your friends pressure you, just because other people say they've had sex, doesn't mean you have to. Plus, people talk, and talk... and talk. You have no way of knowing if anything they're saying is even true. You should absolutely never do ANYTHING that both you and your partner aren't totally comfortable with. Question six - Will either of us have an orgasm? - Its not secret that first time sex has a reputation for not being too pleasurable really. Some couples say that on their first time they both enjoyed it, other couples say that neither of them had an orgasm. It's a very individual thing, best advice I can give is to try not to expect too much from your first time. Just like anything else in life, it takes a while to learn about your body and about your partner's. Ok, our last and final question, and probably THE most common one, "Will It Hurt?" - Many girls (and guys) worry that it will hurt when they have sex for the first time. Truth - It CAN hurt, and it DOES hurt more often than not, and yes, some girls do bleed a little bit. The bleeding is not caused by any sort of cutting, or rubbing or anything of sort. It occurs because the girl has what's called a hymen, which breaks the first time she has sexual intercourse. Now, I just have one last thing to say, and that is TAKE PRECAUTIONS! If you're mature enough to be even thinking about having sex, you should be mature enough to be able to discuss condoms. Just because someone's a virgin, it doesn't mean they can't already have a sexually transmitted disease, also - the last thing you want is to be the guy or girl that proves all those sex ed teachers right and end up getting pregnant on your first try. That being said, if you're going to try sex for the first time, make it fun. Don't let the stress get the best of you, and make sure you're ready.

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